A Moment for Moms

A blog for every day Moms.


Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.  Mark 6:31

As mothers, how often there is "coming and going" that you don't have a chance to eat or you can't even catch your breath? For me this can be often if I am not planning ahead and putting room into my schedule for rest.  The Lord is clear in Mark 6 as he gives direction in what to do in these circumstances, we need to get where it is quiet and we need rest. We have to make sure we are taking care of ourselves. If we are not, in the end we suffer and our family suffers.  Lack of rest leads to burnout, chronic fatigue and ultimately sickness. It is vital for our bodies that we get the proper rest and nourishment to move forward in the purpose God has called us. I have learned that I need to take a day or two off from work periodically to allow myself time to recharge, refocus and rest.  Now that the kids are all in school, it gives me the day alone in the house and I love it. I also know that if there is time at the end of the day to soak in the bathtub for 20 minutes, I will do it to help me re-organize my thoughts and just relax.

This rest is not only important for our physical bodies, but is critical for our mental and emotional well being.  If we do not allow time to turn our minds off for a little while to just reflect and meditate, we can get discouraged, frustrated and can even have a mental breakdown.  Jesus knew that his disciples needed to eat and get rest so that they would have the perseverance to answer the call on their lives. Jesus used this principle in his own life as we read in scripture that he would retreat and just spend time with the father.  We can learn from his example. In the current time of technology and social media, it is critical that we unplug ourselves and give ourselves a break from all the distractions. Make a point of scheduling a rest or relaxing moment into your day.


1 Corinthians 14:33 For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.

How peaceful it is when our homes are in order. That is, things are in their
place and the environment around us is clean and organized. I don’t know
about you, but when my home is in that state, I feel a sense of peace. Now I
realize we live in our homes and our daily lives are busy so keeping the home
in this state all the time is unreasonable and unrealistic. We can all take a
deep breath and say our homes are messy the majority of the time.
However, I believe that because God is a God of peace, not confusion, he can
guide us on how to be better organized. How frustrating is it when you are
looking for something, and you can’t find it! Or you miss a deadline on
paperwork for your child because you misplaced the paper.
I have put together some helpful tips that I have learned (still learning) to
incorporate to help life go smoother, and I can feel that I am more organized
and on top of things. Doing these things has helped me to then maximize the
time I do have and keeps me from procrastinating.

1. Make a list. When you have a lot of things to accomplish it is very helpful
to have a list to keep you focused on what the priority things are that need to
be done. Many times, we start off doing one task and then begin doing
another one that is not on the list. Keep your focus and stick to the list.

2. Complete a task. As you go through your list, finish one before moving to
the other. This way you don’t have incomplete tasks hanging over your head.
3. When there is paperwork to be done, do it right away. I know when my
kids come home from school with a paper that needs to be signed or filled out,
it is in all our best interests if I fill it out right away. I stop what I am doing and
get that done so that there is no chance of missing out on something or
getting penalized for being late. Once filled out, have your child put it in their

4. Use the calendar and reminders on your phone. Having a quick
resource for what is on your calendar is important to have on your phone. It
also serves to remind you of upcoming events so that you don’t forget

5. Take a few minutes out of every day to organize something. It could be
the glove compartment of your car or a drawer in your kitchen. These
moments are refreshing, and it always feels good to clean out things that you
don’t need or want.
These are just a few tips to getting you started on improving your organization
for 2018. Ask the Lord to provide you with strategy in how to best establish
order in your life and home. Seek him, and it will fall into place as you listen to
his voice.

Psalm 37:23 The steps of a man are established by the LORD when he
delights in his way.

Back to School

The month of September for mothers means “Back to School!” This
year 3 of my 4 children were transitioning to new schools. Jonah, my
oldest, was beginning his college career at Clarkson University.
Clarkson is in Potsdam, NY which is 5 hours from home. As a mother,
those 5 hours feel like an eternity away. Michael and Madison were
starting at Wilson High School and Middle School respectively. They
had been attending St. Peter’s Lutheran School where they were
surrounded by Christian teachers and administrators and now they
were entering into a public school.
I knew in my heart that God had ordained these changes and that my
children were walking in his plan. Despite that, as a mother, I was
provoked to intense prayer over my kids, especially Jonah as he was no
longer under our roof. I found myself just crying out to God on an
ongoing basis. Since they were little I have prayed that God would
protect them from all sickness, harm, and evil. He has been faithful all
these years so I continue to trust him now.
Jonah has been in college for over a month now and has transitioned
well. He has a great roommate with whom he has a lot in common.
They have the same major and are both on the golf team. Prior to
Jonah’s departure for college, our church, Destiny Christian Fellowship,
had a church service dedicated to the college students. Pastor Lou’s
sermon focused on making the decision to live for God and at the end
of the service, there was prayer over the graduates with prophetic
words spoken to each individual. I believe this made a great impact on
Jonah. He was given a devotional by the church and this was one of the
first things he packed for college. When he unpacked in his college
room he placed it right on top of his desk. Just the other day he shared

with me that he is listening to pastor’s sermons on the website and
At the heart of my prayers was that Jonah would walk out his faith on
his own and God is answering. As parents, we strive to train up our
children in the way they should go so that when they are old, they will
continue to live for God. In addition to that, it is so important that our
children are in church so that our church family can come along side
them and speak into their lives as well.
Michael and Madison have become right at home at Wilson, playing JV
soccer and making friends. I continue to pray that they will be a light to
the Wilson community by their actions and words.
Some verses to meditate on and pray over your children:
Phil 1:6 being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you
will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus
Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous.
Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your
God is with you wherever you go. 
Romans 15:13 May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace
in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may
abound in hope. 
Be confident in knowing that if you have entrusted your children
to God's hands, he will walk with them. He will answer your
prayers and he will not let you down.

Put to death the flesh and grow the spirit

    2 Corinthians 7:1  Since we have these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from every defilement of body and spirit, bringing holiness to completion in the fear of God.

    I recently underwent 30 days of eating only whole foods.  The program is called Whole 30.  You can't eat sugar, grains, dairy, and legumes.  So your focus is on eating healthy, whole foods, nothing processed.  On a regular basis, I eat pretty healthy, but constricting my diet to this regimen was a challenge.  I experienced some days where I was really tired and feeling out of it.  It was hard to focus.  As I read about this, I came to discover that your body will go through a withdrawal from carbohydrates which makes you feel unwell.  They call it a "carb fever."  
    By the end of the 30 days I was feeling really good and my desire for the restricted items had decreased.  I slowly introduced these items and came to realize that I had a sensitivity to gluten.  Prior to this, I did not know that gluten affected me but I was experiencing one of two things when I ate something with gluten in it.  Either I felt like I had been drugged and became really tired or my stomach bloated and I felt uncomfortable.
    Other things I began to realize is that food that I liked prior to those 30 days, I didn't care for as much after.  For example, a piece of a Hershey's chocolate bar did not taste good to me.  In fact, I could taste chemicals in it.  I was acutely aware of the additives and toxins in the food that was not whole.
    It is the same way in the spirit realm.  As we are cleansed by Jesus' blood, our eyes are opened to the impurities in our lives.  We become aware of the difference between holiness and wickedness.  Our desires and appetites change.  What was tempting you before is no longer a source of bondage.  This is a process, just as the whole 30 program.  Daily we need to make the commitment to seek the Lord and His wholeness and He will give us discernment.
    I challenge you to take consideration of your physical body.  Not in an image seeking or model type of way, but ask yourself how healthy are you?  What impurities are you putting into your body, which is the temple of the Holy Spirit?  Do you even realize the impurities and toxins that you are taking in or are you desensitized to them?  In the same regard,  have you become lax in your spiritual disciplines that you haven't noticed that your spirit is weak?   Consider these questions and make the appropriate changes today.  Your family will benefit as well as you have more energy and focus.


Be Who You Are!

Ephesians 2:10:  For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.
God has created each one of us and we are unique.  We each have different sets of gifts, talents, personalities and we function in different ways within the body of Christ.  Many do not even realize what gifts they have or how they can best function in the church because they have not taken the time to figure this out.  God has created you for a divine purpose and in order to fulfill that purpose, you need to be moving in the gifts and talents he has given you.  There are personality and gifting tests that you can take to help you figure this out.  Once you do, you will have a new understanding of who you really are.  It is a very liberating moment when you recognize who you are in Christ.  You are his creation and you were meant to glorify him in your sphere of influence with your specific set of gifts and talents.  Additionally, once you grasp the personality that he has given you, you become more aware of your strengths and weaknesses. This knowledge takes the pressure off of you to be someone you are not.  Comparing yourself to others becomes a nonsensical idea now because you are one of a kind.  It also helps you sort out what jobs, positions and ministry will best suit you.   Lastly, seeking out the help of a more mature Christian who can mentor you in you in this area will help to put the wind under your wings so that you can soar!


Teachable Moments

Ephesians 5:16:  Be very careful, then, how you live- not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity because the days are evil.

As mothers, we have many opportunities to speak life to our children.  They make a comment about something and we can either choose to give instruction and godly advice or let the moment pass. 

For example, my son Jonah was facing a strong baseball team this past summer.  His comment to me as we were driving to the game was “we are going to get killed.”  I immediately said to him, “In whatever you do, do it unto the glory of God.  You give it 100%.  When you walk onto that field, you represent Jesus Christ.”  After we arrived, I started to pray for his whole team; that they would believe that they could win.  This team that they were facing was known to have quality players and in fact, Jonah and another member from his team had tried out for this team and did not make it. 

Well, Jonah’s team won the game 11-7!  The whole team played great.  It was a great lesson for Jonah to have faith and work hard no matter what you are facing.  We know from Romans that our lives can be transformed when our minds are renewed.  Outcomes become positive when our minds are focused on the Lord and his strength.  I encourage you to use your words to impact the state of your children’s minds.  May the words of the Lord be ever on your tongue as you interact with your family to uplift them, encourage them and to provide wise instruction.


Pay Attention.

You are my King and my God who decrees victories for Jacob.

Psalms 44:4

            I mentioned in the last blog how our Lord desires to communicate with us daily.  He provides many opportunities for us to hear from Him.  We miss out on these opportunities when we are not paying attention.  It is easy to get distracted by life's daily activities along with Facebook, tv, texting etc.  When we really focus our attention in everything we do on what the Lord is trying to say to us, we will have so much more insight into what he is doing in our lives and our family's lives.

            The verse written above is an example of how the Lord used a scripture written in the Psalms to encourage my heart and give me peace regarding my son Jacob.  When he was around 7 years of age, he had to have surgery.  While I was sitting in the waiting room, I was praying and reading the bible when this verse leapt off the page at me.  It was as if God was speaking directly to me to tell me that He was in charge of that surgery and Jacob's surgery would most definitely be successful.  Now, I know that verse written by David was not intended to mean my son Jacob, but the Lord gave it to me personally as a word from Him that comforted my heart and assured me that Jacob would be just fine.

            Not only will He use scripture but everyday situations to quietly speak to your heart.  Another example of this happened to me just the other day.  I was really discouraged at work about what a couple of my co-workers had said to me.  As a woman, this is hard to let go.  You think about it over and over in your mind and sometimes it is difficult to get peace.  As I was sitting at my desk, one of the orthotists stopped in to drop off some braces.  He began to talk with me as he usually does.  We have had numerous conversations about how I coach and how we both have received inspiration from Coach John Wooden.  He spoke that day about how sports can play a big role in teaching children many life lessons.  He listed all the things and then went on to say that "wow, Lori look at all the things that you are teaching the kids.  You really have an impact on them as a coach."  I was so touched by what he said and my spirits were lifted.  As he left and I returned to my work I realized that the Lord had sent him to me to give me encouragement and I finally found peace.  I was so thankful.

            I encourage you today to seek the Lord in every situation.  Keep your eyes on what he might be telling you minute by minute.  Listen for his voice.  Watch for what people he may send into your path at just the right minute. 


A Mother's Heart

Philippians 4:6-7Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

            As mothers, God instills in us a desire for our children to succeed.  We want them to love and serve God.  Our heavenly Father knows our heart and will use various means to communicate to us about the concerns we have regarding our children.  I was concerned about some rebellion I was seeing in my son Jacob.  I took this concern to the Lord and he answered me initially in a dream. 

            I have started to write down my dreams as I have learned that our Father wants to communicate with us daily, even minute by minute.  So even while we are sleeping, he will use that opportunity to speak to us.  I wrote down the dream and I knew almost instantly that the Lord was showing me that this rebellion that I was seeing would be gone.  I had such a peace knowing that the Lord knew my heart, heard my prayer and gave me an answer.

            The Lord also used a situation in my home to speak to me about Jacob.  A snake had somehow gotten into our basement while my husband and I were not home.  We were at a baseball game for Michael, my third son.  My other 3 children were home.  Well, Jacob saw the snake in the basement while he was playing the Xbox with his cousin, who is his best friend.  My oldest son, Jonah, was in bed because he was not feeling good so he could not help in the situation even though my daughter came running into his room to tell him there was a snake in the basement.  My nephew, Jonathan, spoke to Jacob through the Xbox and told him he had to get it out of the house.  So, Jacob put on some gloves and picked that snake up and carried it outside and threw it in the yard.  The Lord showed me through this situation a couple things.  First, that Jacob when confronted with the enemy, would triumph over him.  Secondly, that Jonathan would be a source of encouragement and truth for Jacob.  Thirdly, that when necessary Jacob would step into a leadership role.  It took me a while to get this message as I was pretty freaked out about having a snake in the basement, but once I grasped what God was showing me, I have had such a peace and a confidence in what the Lord is going to do in Jacob.

            Keep your heart close to the Lord.  Read the word and pray daily so that you are in tune with God's heart.  As you keep your eyes and ears alert to what messages he wants to share with you about your children, your heart will have peace.  You will have the confidence in knowing that he has a plan and you can trust him.